Thursday, October 14, 2010

Hello Again!!

Wow, I have not posted in a while. To tell you the truth, I just didn't feel like being fake happy because I wasn't really happy. I have been going through a lot lately and I know this is a crafty blog but before I get back to my regularly scheduled programming, I need to get some things off my chest.

I had to take some time to get rid of a terrible person in my life and that totally drained me.

This person has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. If you have never heard of it, here is the definition from the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers page:

Narcissism Definition

The Narcissism Definition, as defined by the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders is as follows.

There are nine possible traits, and a person with genuine Narcissistic Personality Disorder will experience at least five of these to attain (if that's the right word) a complete Narcissism Definition.

A person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

has a grandiose sense of self-importance,

is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love,

believes that he or she is "special" and unique,

requires excessive admiration,

has a sense of entitlement,

is inter personally exploitative,

lacks empathy,

is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her,

shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.

I found an awesome support group, and an even more awesome therapist. I realized that the only way I would heal from the abuse I have encountered was to cut off contact with this person. It was my birthday present to myself and it has been the most wonderful liberating thing I have ever done.

I know it is a hard thing for some people to grasp as this person was very close to me. I have a question for those people though...Would you tell a woman who is being physically abused in a relationship to just go back to her abuser so that she doesn't make waves? I know I wouldn't, so I can't understand why people want me to go back to heavy duty mental/emotional abuse. Especially from someone who is supposed to love me unconditionally.

Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers


  1. I'm happy to hear you are taking positive steps in the right direction! My own grandmother has some issues with narcissistic personality which has hurt her relationship with my mom and aunt as well as myself. She has to dominate every conversation, tells stories that aren't true to make herself look better, and puts down my grandpa in front of others... It's to the point we don't even like inviting her to family things or taking her anywhere. Anyway, I am glad you're seeking support. Hang in there!

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